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You’ll never be able to move forward in your business (or in life) without making a decision. Let’s get real, it all starts there. But here is the nemesis of making a decision – self-doubt!
Self-doubt often creeps in after making a decision. There are many reasons for this. Habit, upbringing, and environment are just some of things that can a play a role in self-doubt. It can be truly insidious! Self-doubt often causes you to change directions … which can be detrimental to your business.
But rest assured. It all starts with making a decision. And if you are doing so, you’re on the right track! The more practice you have with decision-making, the better you’ll get at it. Eventually you’ll be able to keep the self-doubt in check.
Just do your homework, go with your gut, and be willing to make mistakes. Thomas Watson, President of IBM, once stated,
The key to success is massive failure!
I woke the other day with a powerful thought. After having a massive breakdown the night before, it was a welcomed experience.
Over the course of several weeks I’ve been wandering around as something was not right… my life was not right.
It doesn’t occur often but when it does , it’s numbing. Definite head trip for sure.
The night of my “breakdown” I got to a place where I resigned. I finally for the first time, I think, accepted all that was in my life.
I had surrendered and accepted what my life had become – the good, the bad, and the ugly. There’s something soothing about accepting what’s so.
Yes it was coming from a place of resignation, but it felt good nonetheless. I had spent all of my life trying desperately not to accept what’s so – always wanting to be somewhere else. Wanting more money, a better business, a nicer house, to travel more. (All this wanting has been exhausting.)
Striving. Reaching. Full steam ahead.
Nothing wrong with wanting more. It’s natural … it’s nature. But does wanting more for your life mean having to constantly climb this exhaustive never-ending hill? With all this constant pushing, struggling, and going against the grain, you come to wonder if you’ve been wrong all along.
Is it all really worth it? There has to be a better way for sure!
A couple of weeks ago I was invited to do a keynote at the Public Speakers Association. Yay!
One of the strategies I committed to doing more of this year was public speaking. Sure I’ve done it before – but not nearly as much as I wanted to.
But I must confess. It’s never easy. As pumped up as I was about doing it, there was a part of me that was scared shitless.
Some things never change …
Let me share with you the real deal. What really goes on every time I step onto that stage.
The Inner Workings of the Public Speaker
As she stood in front of the room and began to introduce me, all I could hear were snippets of words coming from her mouth. Words such as ‘… needs no introduction,” “awesome marketer” and “Michele Welch’ was about all I could hear.
Seemed like a great intro. Wish I had paid attention …
My heart was thumping so loud , I swore they could hear it. I slowly took a few deep breaths. Maybe they wouldn’t notice the drastic rising and falling of my chest… or the sweat starting to form on my forehead… or my now flushed cheeks.
“Just remember the opening Michele,” I told myself. “You got this.” “You’re awesome.” “You know your shit.”
I’ve learned the art of pumping myself up. It usually worked. I’ve always managed to get through it.
The first few minutes is always the hardest. Inside my head an on going battle between remembering what I needed to say and my inner voice begging, “Oh please don’t forget your spiel!”
This is not how I practiced it.
What was that all too important point I wanted to make in the beginning??
But then something cool began to happen. As I continued to look at all those in front of me; feeling their desire for me to do well, there was a shift.
In today’s Marketing & Mindset Video Tip I’d like to talk about creating a Daily Habit Log. What do I mean by this?
For many of us, we often struggle doing new things. For example, getting on a diet, blogging weekly, following up with people, etc. And this can be a challenge because these things we want to take on have not become a habit.
We are driven mostly on a day-to-day basis by our automatic way of Being. These are pre-programmed ways of doing things that we do day in and day out. For example, brushing our teeth and tying our shoes are automatic to us. We don’t have to think about it. These are just habits that we’ve established after doing them over and over again. No thought process – really – is involved.
When we are taking on new things that are NOT a habit, it’s a challenge; because we need to shift it from being something that takes some effort, time, and thought into something that becomes automatic.
That’s where we want to get to with certain things in our business; that you want to make a regular habit.
The only way to create a habit is to:
- Do it regularly
- Be very conscious of it
- Put a system in place that “forces” you to do it