Things I Wished I Had Known or Done Differently
No point in living in regret. Regretting the past won’t do you any good. You can’t change the past anymore then you can change what you ate for breakfast. What’s done is done. All you can do is learn from your experiences and continue to forge forward.
But in hindsight there are things I wished I had known or done differently. Maybe it can’t do anything for me now other than to know what NOT to do moving forward, but maybe my experiences will help you in some way. At this point all I can do is pass my knowledge forward.
Trying to Be Everything to Everyone
Gosh! If I had know this when I started my first blog, I could of shaved off at least a year off my learning curve when growing my business. I’m by nature a people pleaser … always have been, always will be. Nothing wrong with it, it’s just not the most effective way to BE in life sometimes. Because at the end of the day you can’t please everyone all of the time.
In the process of trying to be everything to everyone, blogging about everything and anything, like a frog trying to catch some flies (Yeah. Weird analogy.), I was getting more and more off track with my vision and true hearts desire.
It was a long and hard lesson to learn, but learned it I did. I now know that everyone is not my peeps. If you’re open-minded, like to hear it like it is, looking to explore new ways of Being, passionate about living your life by your own creation, and not afraid to get your feathers ruffled a bit, then you’re my kind of peeps. If you’re sugar and no spice and only care for the warm fuzzy’s or not open to sometime radical ways of thinking, then you probably won’t get me… and I’m finally okay with that.
Doing it Alone
I’m sure you’ve heard this before … And it’s because it freakin’ true! I spent years trying to figure things on my own, learning the process as I went along. OH. MY. GOSH!! Talk about taking the road longest traveled! Once I caved in and hired a coach, things began to role. And listen. Getting a coach or mentor doesn’t necessarily mean they know more than you – but they can see and point out your gaps. You know. Those blind spots that for the life of you you can’t see.
I’ve always said you can’t see the frame if you’re the picture (Think about it).
So PLEASE, hire me, hire another another coach, get a mentor, join a group with people who are already having success with what you want to do – I don’t care. But get support!
Sure it’s an expense. Sure you can probably figure it out on your own in time. But really. Do you want success now or in two years? You choose.
Stuck to My Guns
It’s taken my YEARS to finally find my “home.” Don’t get me wrong this doesn’t mean I’m not open to continuing to change and evolve. But I’ve finally found the place that I truly believe in my heart I will stick with for a long time to come. Everything else where just stepping stones to this – The Edge Code.
Coaching in the area of personal growth and self-development was something for the longest time I feared to venture into. I mean there was no doubt that I loved it. From the time I began exploring different ways of thinking as I engrossed myself in philosophy in college studying Descartes and the meaning of life, I knew there was a whole other world of thinking that I was just beginning to tap into.
From there I followed the work of people such Tony Robbins and Deepak Chopra; slowly but surely adding more and more teachers of spirituality, personal growth, and self-development to my repertoire of audios and books on my shelves. To me reading books about creating your world with simply changing your thoughts and tapping into an energy that was much bigger than us mere mortals, was like being a kid in a candy shop.
I couldn’t get enough of it. It was a drug to me … But in a good way.
But my fears of “I can’t coach in the area of self-development or personal growth because I don’t have a certified degree in this field,” or “No one wants to hire coaches for this sort of ‘pie-in-the-sky’ stuff,” plagued me constantly. The end result? It kept me from taking a leap of faith sooner.
Follow the Road Less Traveled
Let’s face it. There’s a reason why a very small percentage of entrepreneurs actually become highly successful. They think and act differently than most of us. They follow the path of most resistance often doing things that others won’t.
They continue to put themselves out there no matter how much rejection they come up against. They are willing to take the road less traveled – often relying solely on faith to get them there.
When I first started my business I constantly looked to others to see how they were doing things… As if they had all the answers. Not to say that I didn’t have creative thoughts. Those I had plenty for sure!
However, I suppressed my creativity in order to follow the herd. Hey I didn’t know what I didn’t know.
I soon realized that I was surrounding myself with those who knew less than I did. Talk about the blind leading the blind. Don’t get me wrong, I met some amazing people. But they were doing what I was doing and I was doing what they were doing. Get where I’m heading?
If you follow the lead of the majority, you will be part of that majority. If you follow the lead of the minority … And if the minority of the business owners in this control are successful, who do you think you should take your lead from? Hmm…
My point: Don’t do what the 95% are doing, do what the 5% are.
Like I stated before, no regrets. I truly believe I had to go through I went through to get to this point in my life. It’s added new depths of awareness, knowledge, and compassion that I may not have had otherwise. Like Joyce Meyer always says,
I may not be where I want to be, but thank God I’m not where I used to be!